GIRLFRIENDS, Issa Love Letter!

Dear Girlfriends,

Girlfriends, I love you!

As the never ending year of 2021 has finally come to an end, we enter into the new and unknown of 2022. In my reflections of the crazy that was 2021 I got to thinking, damn I really have some dope girlfriends. So with the revival of my blog, finally, I decided to dedicate the first post of the year to y’all.

All my girlfriends know that the last 5 months of 2021 was definitely the hardest 5 months I’ve ever experienced in my entire life! Tragically losing my dad, 5 years after tragically losing my mom, has taken me through some emotions that I never imagined I was capable of having. Outside of God and my husband, it is YOU girlfriends who have kept and keep me going daily.

From your daily calls, texts, dinners, and check in’s with me, THANK YOU! I knew I had some dope women in my circle, but my goodness you ladies have truly outdone yourselves. Not only have each of you been there to usher me into a new life as an adult orphan, but you all show up for me when I don’t even know I need you. There was a day that I was feeling really horrible and didn’t want to get up off the couch to do anything or to talk to anyone and one of you called me just to check in and could sense that I was not well. Instead of telling me it would be okay, you simply just said, “girl feel however you need to feel” and that made all the difference and helped me pick myself up and get moving for the day. Y’all know my love of wine and made sure to stop with it for some girlfriend time or have it delivered with beautiful floral arrangements and plants. Who knew the power a plant could have to help you heal, THANK YOU! Then there are the 5:30 am early morning workout sessions with my good girlfriend, that literally feed my soul and help me establish a daily routine to get up and start the day with meditation, laughs, and a nice sweat! Oh and I can’t forget my birthday, that week was HARD for me, but it was you my sistas who checked on me daily and took that long drive to help me celebrate myself at the beautiful winery. THANK YOU! You all showered me with kind words, lots of hugs, 90’s r&b sing alongs, and of course great wine! I can’t count the many brunches, dinners, and home happy hours I’ve had with so many of you; THANK YOU! I truly cherish the time we’ve spent together and don’t take any of you for granted. Whether we’ve been friends for 2 years or 20, you are all truly special to me and I’m forever grateful for the way that you’ve shown up to support me in my greatest time of need. Like Molly told Issa on the finale episode of our favorite show, Insecure,

“Thank you so much for everything (insert your name here)…for everything.Just for being you, for loving me while I was me…and girl I don’t where life is gonna take us, but I just know that as long as you’re around, imma be okay.”

-Molly, Insecure (Everything Gonna Be, Okay?!)

Girlfriends, I’m forever grateful for you all! Cheers to a new year of more laughs, more love, and more wine time.

XOXO,

Your girlfriend for life, Dom

On being a woman…a black woman.

Hey Girlfriends,

Real Hot Girl-Friends Message!

Megan Thee Stallion aka Hot Girl Meg has done it again for all the hotties and everybody else out there who NEEDS to hear this word. I love how she’s using her platform to let people know what it’s really like to be a woman of color. Her New York Times opinion piece is making it’s rounds on social media and this piece is straight fire y’all!

It starts off with a bold, yet simply stated question: “What does it mean to be a woman of color?” While the question may be simple, the answer is complex and deep. Our hot girl-friend goes down the list of many things we’ve all referred to ourselves as before, but she really gives a quick glimpse into why being a “woman of color” is so intricate and beautiful at the same damn time.

The Answers:

“Strong because that’s the expectation. Loving herself, but not too much cause then she’s conceited. Being told she’s too much, but not enough. Left out on the streets, but is the rose that grew from concrete.” She then goes on to explain how we do everything for everyone else, but when it comes down to us “IT AIN’T A MUTHA FUCKA IN SIGHT!”

Whew chile…that last line sent me runnin’ round the church for a few laps. She betta preach it loud for the people in the balcony annnddd the overflow rooms! Sista Meg hit the nail on the head for me. She infused beautiful images of women while also letting the people know that it’s hard AF to be a black woman.

Imma tell y’all now, I didn’t realize how hard it was to be a black women until I moved out of my comfort zone and into the concrete jungle of Brooklyn, NY. Yes, BK has lots of black people, especially in Bed-Stuy, but you start to really see how people look at you and what they think of you when you’re in a new environment and out of your comfort zone. If you really know me, then you know that didn’t bother me. Like Meg, I too am going to always be my unapologetic self in any space. I won’t mute my personality or my positive vibes only motif for anyone…Periodt!

But let’s really unpack some of what Meg is saying here…starting with this one:”strong because that’s the expectation” This one hit hard, because I’ve seen my momma, aunties, cousins, and friends endure some tough things but be so strong through it all. Why do we always have to be the strong ones? I’ve been here many times. I deal with whatever the issue is in the moment, pull up my big girl panties, and get to solving the problem the way I’ve watched so many black women do before. I personally don’t think it’s anything wrong with being the strong black woman, but we also have to give ourselves space and time to grieve when we need to, take a break when we need to, and most importantly reach out for help when we need to. Girlfriends, not one person is going to look down upon you for taking the time you need…just do it sis!

On to the next one “Being told she’s too much, but not enough.” This one made me think about all of the work spaces and places I’ve been in, even the ones lead by black women. You’re appreciated for solving problems and making everyone feel safe and protected, but you’re never enough to get that promotion or trusted to lead the team using your own intellect and instincts. You always have to follow the script and do what you’re told. This one here, burns me up inside and is quite frankly what keeps me from moving into leadership roles. I have superb ideas and have even been a model for others, but not letting me lead the way I see fit is a slap in the face and a waste of my good energy. Girlfriends, we have to start speaking up for ourselves too and when they won’t let us do what we know needs to be done we have to be courageous enough to walk away from it and create our own lane. I think Meg has done and is actively fighting to keep doing just that. I support you girlfriend!

At the end of the day, Meg is young and growing in her womanhood. We’ve all been there girlfriends. She’s making memories, mistakes, and learning from them with every experience she has. I’m happy that she has a platform to share her growth and that she’s showing young girls a different side of “real hot girl $h*t.” This is the side that our young girlfriends need to see, take note of, and learn from. I hope that they’re watching and growing alongside their big sista Meg.

Now, let’s talk about it! How did our girlfriend Meg’s message resonate with you? Can you relate? Do you get it? Do you have questions? Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

XOXO,

Dom

The Brandy & Monica Verzuz had me like…

Hey girlfriends,

It was a marvelously magical night that had me on a roller coaster of emotions, reactions, and all up in my feelings. After a long day of virtual zoom meetings to prepare for this upcoming school year, I can finally take this puff down, slide my bra off, and get into it wit’ my girlfriends and a glass of wine.

So, Im gonna try something a lil different here. Well not so different if you are a girlfriend that I text with often, you know I love a good GIF. I’m gonna unpack the nostalgic rollercoaster ride of a livestream just like dat. I mean that’s how we did it last night anyway, sharing our thoughts back and forth with short words, phrases, and some bomb ass GIF’s. Strap in and hold on tight…here…we…gooooo!!!

The DJ definitely kicked it off house party style with all of the ATL hits. 112, Usher, TLC…you name it he played it. Then he got us warmed up with some preliminary Brandy and Monica jams. Girlllll, I was up in my living room dancing around and singing like I was at a high school house party. (In ATL though…LOL)

As we continue our rollercoaster ride up the steep hill, we get to the entrance we’ve all been waiting for. Boho chic Brandy and Monica with the Fendi drip strut on in and take their seats, I look at my screen anticipating the experience I’m about to have watching BOTH of my teenage idols fill my TV screen with stunning beauty. Then THIS happened…

Kamala jumps on it to start it off right, giving the Queens their praise and encouraging them to continue using their voices in a powerful way. I mean…

Okay, so we get this thang started and immediately, I mean immediately I’m a 13 year old girl back sittin’ up in my room jammin’ to my stereo singing in my brush microphone.

Okay, now let’s just address the elephant in the room. Things were going just fine and then Brandy decided to bring Moesha into the room. As a fellow writer I understand the love for journal and poetry writing, but sis was going in….Ya hear me! In my opinion, it wasn’t the space for Moesha…I mean Brandy…to be at the Den reading from her journal about Q and the crew. Hahahaha

The rest of the show was pretty darn amazing…I must say I got my entire LIFE and felt like I was back in middle school dreaming about my first fake love and hanging with my girlfriends up in my room. The best part about the night was the fact that Brandy and Monica were able to heal whatever it was they weren’t speaking for. I mean, as black women and role models they put their issues aside for their own peace and hopefully helped y’all see that it’s all about the sisterhood from now on. As the kids these days put it…it’s the girlfriend support, love, and healing for me!

Brandy vs. Monica: Why I can’t choose a “winner!”

Hey girlfriends!

Tonight’s the night, our childhood favorites will hit the scene for the latest, most anticipated Verzuz battle yet. We all wanna be down with our girls Miss Thang Mo and The Vocal Bible B, so for the past few days many of us have been takin’ it to our group chats, family dinners, and of course social media accounts to say who we think is going to “win.” I too, started out thinking about this as a battle and wanting to choose a winner, but is it really a battle?

All of the conversations about who should win, who has more hits, who has the better chops kinda made me wonder about us as black women and girlfriends. Why do we feel the need to be in constant competition with one another? We all know that Brandy and Monica have a very long history and have always been paired up against one another. But they never should’ve been…periodt!

Yes, I know this Superbowl of live streams is even called “Verzuz” which lends itself for us to ultimately want a winner at the end, but in this case I think we all win. It’s just too difficult to choose between the girls who became phenomenal women and gave us the soundtrack to many of our childhoods. I mean, who didn’t want to sing both parts in The Boy is Mine? Who didn’t want to be Brandy in the first black representation of Cinderella? And I’m sure there are soooo many of us who wanted to be Monica everytime we heard Missy scream out “NEW MONICA!”

This is only the second Verzuz that showcases the amazing talents of two beautiful brown skinned sistahs. Just like that message we all sent out and re-posted a while back, we need to support them, not tear them down, and pit them against one another. They are both AMAZING and have a bomb ass catalogue of songs that I’m sure some of us have forgotten about. So, let’s make sure we show up and show out in record numbers for them.

They’ve spent enough years “battling” and competing, now it’s just time for them to shine and show us what sisterhood looks like in the music industry. Don’t get it twisted, being a celebrity ain’t easy and they’ve both been through it all. So for tonight…no battles, no haters, and no losers…EVERYBODY WINS!

They will be streaming live from the historic Tyler Perry Studios, so tonight is about making history once again and showing the world why BLACK WOMEN ROCK! Be sure to come back tomorrow so we can re-cap, re-live, and re-store our love for melodic & soulful R&B music from our childhood favs.

See y’all at the show!

Talk about it Tuesday: “It is what it is!”

Well, day one of the 2020 Democratic National Convention is in the books and we certainly got a good talkin’ to from one of my favorite women in the entire world. The look of disappointment, sadness, and feeling of urgency radiated through the screen like a laser beam! Hopefully feelings of empathy and necessity to do the right thing was shot straight into the hearts of those who are wavering on their decisions or contemplating withholding their votes.

My forever FLOTUS, Michelle Obama, gave it to us straight up with no chaser last night. She let us have it just like your momma would when you did something that was bad…but not bad enough to punish you, just bad enough to give you a nice long speech to make YOU feel her pain and disappointment for whatever stupid thing you said or did. Which in turn made YOU feel bad. LOL

Adorned with her gold hoop earrings and VOTE necklace, I watched Mrs. Obama in awe of her bravery and strength as she dropped gems of truth and continued her trek up the “we go high” mountaintop. I mean she so beautifully touched on all the things that old Donnie has messed up in our country, the Karens of the world, how this administration is letting our kids down, and why in the hell people refuse to wear their masks. Really stamping it into the concrete that “Donald Trump is the wrong president for our country…” slamming him in the most eloquent way possible. When she dropped that “It is what is is!” phrase I was a little shocked but in the most magical way, it was her professional way of saying “Periodt Pooh!” LOL She most definitely mastered the best way to say he’s f’in it up here and y’all know it, so don’t be stupid and vote wrong again! But that “It is what it is!” statement should’ve perked you up a bit and made you lean in closer to hear what else she had to say about old Donnie.

Now y’all know she wasn’t going to go an entire speech without showin’ some love for her husband. Her love for President Obama is unmatched and so beautiful to see. (#blacklove) I love the way she stands behind her husband and reminds the world every chance she gets of the great work he did for our country. The care and empathy they both kept in their front pockets as they traveled the country and listened to families concerns, not matter the ethnicity or class. Not only that, but she also keeps it real and reminds us that being President ain’t easy and her friend Joe understands that and knows firsthand how important it is to put the people first while still managing and maintaining the politics. It’s clear to see how much she believes in Joe Biden and made sure to let us know that he has some big plans and ideas to get us out of this hell on earth old Donnie has us living in.

There is so much more that I can say about Mrs. Obama’s message from last night, but you’d be reading an entire dissertation and we don’t have time for that. Overall her message was real, raw, and honest. It was just what we all needed to hear to kick us into gear and get out there to VOTE for what we all know is going to be best for our country right now.

Talk about it Tuesday: Are you down with the WAP?

Gather ’round girlfriends we have some things we need to talk about TUHDAY! “WAP,” nope not worship and praise, but “wet a** pu$$y.” Yep, that’s right it hasn’t even been out a full week and Cardi and Meg have done it again. They have given us a new women’s empowerment anthem, yeah I said it…empowerment! Now let’s be clear, while the song has many of us feeling strong and empowered about our bodies and owning our sexuality; there are too many conservatives to count (famous and not so famous) who are in an uproar about this new tune. Pick up your shovels and let’s dig a lil’ deeper into it.

I took it upon myself to do a little google searching before letting y’all know my thoughts about the anthem. OMG…that search had me on a merry-go-round of emotions. The main one being, anger. My unicorn (’cause of course I’d be on a unicorn right?) came to a screeching halt as I read the perplexing and offensive opinions from a Washington Post article. The white male journalist that I choose not to name said things about my good girlfriends like:

the video is “…hyper-sexualized”

“…the acronym title is too vulger to spell out” and

described the BAPS inspired outfits as “ostentatious animal print outfits, which leave very little to the imagination.” He even calls the video “outrageous.”

What really pissed me off is that he went on to mention the netflix series “Tiger King” and the outrage he felt about Cardi using real, live big cats. Now he isn’t the only one, there are many other animal rights activists who are focused on the big cats more than the message of the song. Now grab your shovels and let’s dig even deeper!

Here’s the thing, these white conservatives are chastising two beautiful women, one black and one latina, for taking back ownership of their bodies and sexuality from the misogynist male rap lyrics we’ve been blasting for years. Not to mention letting other women know, hey sis, it’s okay to be sexy and love sex too! If we allow men to rap, sing, and include “oversexualized” video girls in their videos about us, then hell we should be able to do it for ourselves too!!!!

A bit of background. The sample used for “WAP” is from a 1992 Baltimore club hit titled “Whores in this House” by Frank Ski and Al “T” McLaran. On Friday morning when I hit play on the mysterious “WAP” single, I immediately recognized the sample as something I remembered listening to in my younger days. As a DMV native, I knew I’d heard this song before. My google search proved me right and solidified my initial idea that Cardi and Meg took this male dominated, negative song and gave it a woman’s touch. I like to think of “WAP” as the new age Juvenile & Cash Money hit “Back That A$$ Up.” You know when you hear those strings, that beat drops, and Juvenile’s infamous whisper “Hot, hot…Cash money records takin’ over for the ’99 and the 2000’s” the spirit lifts you up and you can’t help but shake what yo’ mama gave ya! We have a new hit to shake it too girlfriends, one designed especially for us, by us.

I get it, no woman wants to be identified as a whore, but every lady has needs that must be met in the bedroom and should be 100% comfortable letting her partner know when, where, and how she wants things done. Okkuuurrr!

I have seen the house in the video referred to as the “whore house” and I can’t stand that. The women in this luxurious mansion with busty fountains spewing out crystal clear water from the nips are no man’s whore, they are beautiful representations of their culture and what Cardi has went on record stating “future super stars.” What I love most is that she took up and coming female rappers and put them on. That’s the break she had and now she’s reaching back to help a sista out with a come up.

So…to the naysayers, conservatives, big cat lovers, and especially to the men who rap and lust over women with bodies like Meg and Cardi everyday on the street, don’t get your panties all in a bunch; dig that wedgie out enjoy this ride. Matter of fact, go out and get you some WAP!

Moesha and Me!

Moesha is back y’all and so am I!

Just like the nostalgic 90’s shows we all love so much creeping in to save us from the agony of what has become of the year 2020, I’ve proclaimed it my time to shine too. I mean, why not right? Not to mention, but to absolutely mention, all of my friends who keep asking me “Dom, what’s up with your blog?” Here it is y’all! This first one is dedicated to me and Mo…Moesha.

We’re all basically stuck at home, working or not (cause that’s real too), trying to get through 2020 the best way we all know how. Drankin’, Netflixin’, and chillin’. Just when we thought Netflix had run out of content, they decided to throw us back to the 90’s with one of my favorite shows from my teen years, Moesha! Now I have to admit, I didn’t know how much I missed Mo until I started binging. Me, my wine, Moesha and the crew. I’m not done with all 6 seasons yet, but the deeper and deeper I fall into the Moesha conundrum I’m starting to discover some things that are a bit alarming about my beloved 90’s show.

Let’s start with Moesha’s attitude…I mean I loved Brandy as a young girl and still do as a full grown women, but damn Moesha was mean as hell to everybody. It left me with this question: Is she an asshole or severely depressed and angry at the world? Before you disagree, think about it…her mom died and her dad remarried a teacher from her high school. That’s weird as hell for a teenager. Okay, the next thing we need to discuss is how mean she was to Kim. Why Moesha writers, just why???

Moesha, the show, and I matured simultaneously. I was in middle school when the show premiered and about to graduate high school when it went off the air. So many of the topics they tackled were directly connected to what I thought I was experiencing as a teenager. But back to the friendships…realistically, I just don’t think with the way she treated her crew that they would’ve stuck around and put up with her with her stuff. She was selfish, narcissistic, and riding her high and mighty card hard. It just seems like now watching it as an adult that Mo thought she was better than the rest of them in the crew.

Let’s move on to brother Hakeem. First of all, where is his mama and his grandma? Why is Hakeem always over there ready to eat all meals of the day? As neighbors, should Mr. and Mrs. Mitchell go over there and see if everything is okay? LMAO…I just have so many questions about Hakeem. Meanwhile, he has the freshest gear and doesn’t seem to be bothered. He loves him some Moesha and is going to always be that neighbor best friend coming over for a hot meal and some family drama on the side. LOL

Okay, last one…Dee is way too damn nice to Mo. I know she’s trying to give her some time, but there is only so many times that you ‘re gonna be rude to me lil’ girl. LMAO. Frank, is too nice to his “pumpkin” too. He doesn’t correct or punish her much in season one, and little brother Miles points it out everytime! Even when she refused to take the paid for Saturn, talkin’ bout she tryna get her a jeep; girl bye! Either way, Mo needs a smooth tongue lashing or some serious counseling to get that attitude in check. At any rate, I do think some of the behaviors of the characters and situations wouldn’t fly in these times. *shoulder shrug* I’m still watching season 1, but I’ll be back with an update of my thoughts on Mo 2 da E 2 da…MOESHA. Enjoy being a teen again y’all!

Hit me up and let me know what y’all think too!

Talk about it Tuesday 5.16.17

Hey Girlfriends! Yes, it’ s been awhile but I’m back and kicking off the return with our new weekly series “Talk about it Tuesday!”  Tuesday’s are our time to chat about what’s going on in the lives of girlfriends around the globe or quite simply what our girlfriends have been chatting it up about lately.

  1. Talk about RompHER’S, oh I mean RompHIM’S!  The interesting new trend nearly broke the internet this afternoon with it’s interesting photos of men posing in their #squadgoals photo popping champagne and seemingly having a good time in their one piece swagger fits. Oh and we can’t forget or #mcm and #stylecrush Cam Newton spotted rocking’ his Romphim at what looks like a sunny day at the Coachella music festival. My favorite Romphim of the day definitely goes out to the sexy dark chocolate model sporting his Romphim on some high fashion runway…I’d entertain him in his teeny weeny shorts for sure.

Cam Newton
Sexy Male Model

2. Talk about the fabulousness this mommy and daughter are serving up while they have salon talk on the living room floor.  Jayde Robinson, 1 year old hair stylist, and her mom Kerry Robinson have the most adorable and hilarious conversation about everything from cooking breakfast to going to an amusement park.  This video totally gave us baby fever, but only for a moment. LOL

Baby Jayde is on her way to salon success.  Keep up the great work Kerry as you continue raising your princess.

I hope you enjoyed this week Talk about it posts… until next Tuesday girlfriends! Feel free to hit us up if you have a topic for us to Talk about.

XOXO,

Dominique

On Sisterhood, Love, and Being Enough

When I’d heard about the new Lifetime movie Love By the 10th Date I have to admit I was a little hesitant to tune in. Lifetime typically has movies based on the lonely, desperate woman who falls in love, or the teenager who sneaks off with some man and hides her pregnancy from her family.  Despite the fact that some of my favorite #girlfriends were starring in the movie, I wasn’t convinced or in a rush to sit still for 2 hours to watch my cherished black #girlfriends get dumped, hated on, or ultimately be heartbroken by the end of the film. Typical lifetime B.S.  

Girlfriends let me tell you…I was soooo wrong! 

 Margot ( Kelly Rowland ), Gabrielle (Meagan Good), Billie (Keri Hilson), and Nell (Kellee Stewart) all best friends working at the same magazine run by, in my opinion, a royal pain in the a** editor, radiated the fiercest black queen sisterhood vibes through my television screen.  I mean, after three full nights of the BET New Edition Mini Series I didn’t think there would be another all black cast to woo me on the couch so soon. 

As each scene told the story of a group of supportive girls with the usual male bestie from work, going to happy hours sharing life’s woes and working together to find logical solutions to their problems, at times it felt like I was watching parts of my own life play out on a cable network movie screen. Talk about the chills…I picked up my pen and immediately began scribbling down my thoughts as Good’s character, Gabrielle navigated through her quest to make it to ten dates with the same guy and boost her art career at the same damn time.  

This dumb idea of the 10th date came from that psycho of a boss the girlfriends have a love hate relationship with, Maureen (Cat Deeley).  She foolishly wrote in their magazine  something about how women on the dating scene should be wearing an emotional condom of sorts and merely let loose and just have fun dating.  In lieu of getting all wrapped up in when the relationship will get “real” and the “family-marriage-baby” talk that we all dreadfully succumb too after a few amazing dates. Truthfully speaking, I agree! 

But girlfriends let me tell you, this was not your typical rom-com.  Yes, it’s about Gabrielle ultimately finding love but there are so many interwoven topics about life, love, and career that they sent my head spinning.  

Gabrielle was on this massive search for love when the right man for her was just under her nose.  The girlfriends male work bestie, Dante (Brandon T. Jackson) is your typical not-ready-to-settle-down playa playa from the himalayas until he realizes that he is in love with Gabrielle. The Gina to his Martin. (Cute…I know!)  Then it’s too late.  The untimely return of her ex-boyfriend who now wants to give it another try swoops in and ruins EVERYTHING. Again…my life on the small screen. *insert ugh emoji here* Thank God that stage of my life is soooooo over. *insert big teeth smiley face emoji here* LOL  

I mean, we’ve all been that girl swiping right and left on Tinder and giving our numbers to random guys at the gym and beyond…right?? It becomes all too real when you and your girlfriends finally realize that the guys you hang out with are the ones that really ‘get you’ and the fact that you were friends first makes the transition to a relationship that much easier. Once you accept this and trust the process, all things work-love-life seem to fall in place for your greater good. 

As Gabrielle so cleverly puts it at the end of the movie, “I Am Enough!” Yes we are girlfriend!!!!  

Dating and building your career are all about being yourself and knowing exactly who you are and what you want.  Kudos to the writers and producers, Love By the 10th Date is well written and produced.  Thank you for putting my life as a black women with a creative spirit on the small screen and showing the world how strong, positive, and beautiful me and all my girlfriends are.  

Now, y’all go watch the movie and comment your take on it here with the girlfriends. 

Relax. Relate. Release.

With so much going on back on the home front in Washington, DC and my cousin Krystal’s birthday weekend right in the middle of the chaos, my family decided to come visit me for the dreaded Inaugural Weekend.  I must admit, I was bursting with excitement and couldn’t wait for them to arrive.  Before I tell you the happs…a little background.

My mom’s side of the family is made up of beautiful women who birthed and raised more beautiful women.  If I can remix the lyrics of JuJu on that beat real quick “We pretty…we our mother’s daughters…aye” LOL, let me put goofy Dom back in the closet for a minute.  My cousin’s and I are all in the same age range and when we get together there is non-stop #girlfriend talk and open, honest feedback on life, love, and the pursuit of happiness. 

I am NOT the planner, I repeat I am NOT the planner.  I’m the more spontaneous cousin who does things on a whim and goes wherever the wind blows.  So the birthday girl, Krystal did most of the planning.  We ran around Brooklyn and Manhattan and had an amazing time sipping and painting the town with our southern girl style. 

img_7412We made it a point throughout the weekend to carry the #Obama cut outs I got from the Farewell Obama party that BK based group Black Genius held all around town with us.
We wanted to spend the weekend celebrating our sister, not thinking about how our country has made such a huge mistake. 

Cramped in my small BK apartment with two air mattresses, my queen bed, and my boyfriend exiled to the couch for the weekend was the best thing we’ve done in a long time. The laughs were endless, the memories are priceless, and we make sure to give our #girlfriend, sister, and cousin the best birthday get away ever. 

So girlfriends, I say this to yo all.  Don’t limg_6024et the woes of politics and Trump nonsense take you away from enjoying this life that you were blessed to live.  Gather yo
ur girlfriends and get away from it all for awhile, hell take Obama cut outs with you if that helps. LMAO.  Our weekend was Beyonce #flawless and Solange #historic and I wouldn’t have wanted any other way.